Pleasure Talk With Amber - July 2017 - by Amber Jones

        Sex, Penis, Foreplay, Vagina! Uncomfortable yet? You may not be, but believe me there are plenty of people out there who cringe when hearing words like these! In a time where sex seems to be everywhere, the topic is notably still the elephant in the room. Platinum Pleasures and Pleasure Talk with Amber are here to break down those barriers and address the taboos, and myths associated with sex, relationships, and bedroom accessories.

Growing up I was raised in a household where the topic of sex and prevention was introduced to me at the age of 12. I never understood the discomfort in a room full of individuals when words like condoms, gay, pussy, or even STD’s were mentioned. I had several friends who became teenage mothers while we were still in high school, I watched my brother battle accepting his homosexuality and even contemplating suicide because of what society might think. I have had conversations with women who have admitted to having sex and not actually knowing their bodies well enough to communicate to their partners what they liked and did not like. These are the reasons that Platinum Pleasures and Pleasure Talk with Amber were born. We are dedicated to making the elephant in the room the topic of discussion by creating an open, comfortable platform to educate, discuss, and teach knowledge of self, when it comes to who you are and what you like, and how to be safe while doing it.

Platinum Pleasures is not just about sharing information and selling my products, but being inclusive to both men and women including heterosexuals and individuals apart of the LGBT community. The purpose of Platinum Pleasures and Pleasure Talk with Amber is to take something that we see in public on a daily but are often made to feel limited to talking about in private and make it all comfortable to speak about openly. educating, and helping break down all of the stereotypical things that have become a part of sex.

Since I have started Platinum Pleasures and Pleasure Talk I would have to say that the top two questions I get are “How do you suck dick”? And “How do I make my significant other feel comfortable bringing sex toys into the bedroom”? Well to learn how to suck dick and get pointers on how to give the best blow job ever I would say register for Pleasure Talk with Amber’s “Get Your Head in the Game” fellatio webinar September 23, 2017 at 12pm and 6pm online at pleasuretalkwithamber.com or platinumpleasures.net.

Now for the second question on how to get your significant other comfortable with bringing sex toys into the bedroom. Start off by asking yourself a few questions.

1. Have you expressed to your partner that you would like to spice things up?
  
2. Have either of you had any experiences with toys before?

3. Have you made them feel secure in knowing that you do not want to incorporate toys because they are not capable of satisfying you, but because you think it would be fun to bring in an extra flair? 

In most gay and lesbian relationships, using toys are a no brainer. It’s the heterosexual relationships where all of the fuss begins to take place. The biggest part of any type of relationship is to communicate. So if it is you who wants to open Pandora’s Box, then it is you who needs start the conversation. This conversation may be a tough one to simply have over dinner so I would recommend a time where the both of you are at ease, maybe just laying around cuddling (never directly after sex, because then it will be hard to convince them that it’s not mediocre sex that brought this idea about). Once this conversation is sparked, it will then flow into getting the answer to question number 2. And if you have used toys by yourself or even with a past partner let that be known, that way it may bring some type of comfort to your partner which may help them become more at ease, or just help them become more open to hearing what it is you want to say. If you have not, then that may be even better because it will be a first time experience shared between you. Once they are all ears, that’s when you can educate them on the benefits for both of you.  I would strongly suggest visiting platinumpleasures.net to take a look together at products that spark both your interests that way the actual moment will be even more significant because what was chosen will be beneficial for the both of you.

Also, remember that bigger is not always better, and toy shopping is not just about us, ladies! Many men, whether they express it or not, may be insecure about their man parts, just like we can be insecure about ours so just remember we have to always make each other feel like the kings and queens of the bedroom jungle (plus there are some small toys that pack a mean punch). Last but not least, remember sharing is caring so find toys that you both can use and have fun with interchangeably!

A great toy to start off with would be the Platinum Shock (a silver bullet) I would suggest while giving him head start off with the setting on low and gently massage his balls, and or gooch (the space after the balls right before the anus) with it. That will shock him to say the least, but it will be satisfying and not too invasive. Once you are done using it on him you are able hand it over to him in order for him to sensually massage your clitoris or anus. I can almost guarantee that this will open the door you’re looking to unlock to using more toys and having more fun!

For more tips, and advice, be sure to catch me, your Pleasure Expert right here in Friction Magazine monthly, on Pleasure Talk with Amber daily from 7pm-9pm on radiofordivas.com, and pleasuretalkwithamber.com and on my live Pleasure Talk with Amber podcast Sunday’s, Tuesday’s, and Thursday’s at 9pm. Follow me on Facebook at Platinum Pleasures Adult Novelty LLC, and Pleasure Talk with Amber and on Instagram @pleasure_talk_with_amber and @platinumpleasures.

And do not forget to visit platinumpleasures.net for all the latest and great products for your bedroom!

I am so excited for this new journey with Friction Magazine and bringing you awesome subscribers great, new, fun, content every month, through my column, webinars, and podcast. The topics and realness will be endless so strap up and get ready!

- Amber Jones

Pleasure Expert/Certified Love Coach